Samantha Foster on Wheels
No one wants to need financial support. It’s humbling to say the least. I don’t understand why God has allowed this in my life, but this is where I am. If you want to support me and know for sure that your donations are going to a good cause, it would be my honor to be your favorite charity for donations and corporate matching opportunities.
November 25, 2019
Hi Everyone! Here’s an update from the mom.
It’s almost Thanksgiving – which also happens to be Samantha’s birthday. (She’s always hated sharing her birthday with the turkeys.) Nine months ago, Samantha’s accident changed the direction of our lives. At 28, Samantha began her life as a quadriplegic. Allen and I gave up the freedom of our empty nest, sold our house, moved to an apartment to begin life together in this new normal.
The new normal means Samantha can do very little for herself including the simplest acts … like pulling a blanket over your shoulders, fluffing a pillow, or opening a door. Consequently, she needs 4-6 hours of care daily. We’ve been paying out of pocket for in home care – as well as taking on hours of duties daily – while we waited for social services to come through with the 80 hours of help she’s entitled to monthly. It’s only been in the past 2 weeks that we’ve started to receive some of this care. Still, caretakers regularly quit or don’t show up. If Samantha lived on her own – like many quads – she would be stranded in bed, alone, with no food or care for the day.
Naturally, we are family. Allen and I want the best for all our children – even if they’re adults. We would never want Samantha to live in a nursing home at 28 – or to struggle on her own this early in her injury. So, we’ve made the sacrifices necessary for our little tribe. While I’m brokenhearted for my first child, her lost future and to be honest… for my own lost future of “golden years” that will never come … we have much to be thankful for.
We’re thankful that Samantha’s accident didn’t claim her life. It’s a dark question, but it’s there. Would she… or we… have preferred for it all to end ten months ago? Resoundingly NO. The paralyzed life is the harder path – and she’s so brave to take it on. As her caretakers, Allen and I are called on to lay down our lives daily. It isn’t always easy… but it’s always what we emphatically choose.
We’re thankful for a loving HOME. Yes, we had to sell our HOUSE (ughhh… the one we just remodeled). But, the fact is we DID sell it. And we moved to an apartment which has served our needs as we groped our way in the early days of wheelchair life. The house, the stuff in storage, the apartment… these are just THINGS. What really matters is each other and that’s what we bring to our HOME. Soon, we hope to land in a new HOUSE large enough for multiple adults to live and love even more comfortably. At the time of this writing, we have a house under contract and hope to close before Christmas.
We’re thankful for friends, family and supporters. You have no idea. The outpouring of love and care has been overwhelming. I’ve said it before and I’ll keep saying it… overwhelming is the only word I have. People have given money. Lots of it. People have visited and given their time. I have a 20 something niece who regularly drives from Raleigh to stay with Samantha and give “Aunt Cathy and Uncle Allen” a break. Wow. Would I have done that at 23? (Doubtful)
Yes. Very thankful indeed. I can’t even begin to count our blessings – even in the face of our challenges and hardships.
Friends – we walk this journey every day. If you’d like to continue supporting us, we’d be most grateful.
We’ve joined Help Hope Live so you can adopt Samantha as your official charity with all the benefits of tax-deductible donations. Simply donate in Samantha’s honor. We receive the funds when we make a request for items related to her care – that must be approved by the organization. So, you know your monies will be put to the very best use for her care. Her financial needs will continue until the day science can repair a spinal cord.
I love you all – and if you ever have any questions about Samantha, Allen or me… don’t hesitate to ask.
Photo Galleries (1)
July 2, 2020
Hoping to help my lovely granddaughter Samantha buy a wheelchair van
December 29, 2019
I just found out about this and I'm so sorry this happened. I'm glad that you're able to find positives in this difficult situation. You're in my prayers.
December 3, 2019
Samanthaa, this is in support of your continued progress.
November 26, 2019
Cathy, Alan and Samantha, you are in my prayers.